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Sex Addiction:A New Diagnosis for an Old Behavior: Is Sex Addiction Treatment a Way to Escape the Consequences of Sexual Misbehavior or to Heal? 

Posted: November 18, 2017, 2:11 pm
With all of the recent press around high profile celebrities, considerable attention is being drawn to the rather volatile

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

What Women Don’t Like and Why: Is it Closeness or Coercion?

Posted: December 14, 2017, 10:28 pm

What Women Don’t Like and Why: Is it Closeness or Coercion?

Sexual coercion is confusing for women. We are wired by nature to read and respond, to interpret facial expressions and gestures, to pick up on moods, expectations and intensions of others. Evolution has selected and reinforced ...

Daily Affirmations

Talking Things Over

Today I recognize that it is actually possible to talk things over. To be direct and honest with a person with the intention of working out a problem seems difficult and risky. I still feel that my honest feelings will be met with hostility and that somehow I will end up creating a mess. I experienced this as powerlessness when I was young and I felt unable to do anything to change my situation. Today I know a new kind of powerlessness. It comes from a mature understanding that I cannot control another person. I can only keep my side clean and honest. There is no need for me to be blamed nor do I need to blame the other person. If I enter the dialogue willing to be honest and open-minded, refraining from insults and criticism, chances are pretty good that something will get resolved.
I am able to talk things over.
Speech is a mirror of the soul: as a man speaks, so is he. Publilius Syrus