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When Does Survive Become Thrive? From Emotional Dysfunction to Emotional Sobriety

Posted: July 11, 2017, 6:35 pm
When I see clients in my private practice they are often grappling with a couple categories of issues. If they have been

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What Do We Mean by Relationship Trauma?

Posted: May 30, 2014, 7:43 pm
(Note, continued training along with streaming video available on “The Workshop” on the www.tiandayton.com membership site) Relationship trauma is the kind of emotional and psychological trauma that occurs within the context of relationships. We are biologically wired to seek close and ...

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

Tied Up In Knots: The Anxiety of Living with Unresolved Grief

Posted: April 15, 2017, 7:35 pm

Grief that is out in the open, that is part of the natural cycle of life or one of life’s tragic circumstances has a dignity to it. The person experiencing a loss feels that they have a right to grieve and to accept caring and attention from those they love. However the kinds of losses ...

Daily Affirmations

Responding To Anger


Today I will remember that when I encounter someone who is overheated with angry feeling, I can stay clear and calm and it will not pass to me. Because someone else is having a hard day need not mean that I have to have one too. If I am not a willing receptacle for another person’s angry feelings, they can pass me by. If they connect with my own angry feelings that I deny by using their anger to mask my own, I will prolong the agony for both of us. Then I need to understand where my anger is coming from and own it. If the anger truly is not mine, I can protect myself by not heating up to its level. I don’t need to get defensive to fend it off-I can fend it off by not becoming it.
I can live with another person’s anger.
Heat cannot of itself pass from a colder to a hotter body. Rudolph Julius Emanuel Clasius
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