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When Does Survive Become Thrive? From Emotional Dysfunction to Emotional Sobriety

Posted: July 11, 2017, 6:35 pm
When I see clients in my private practice they are often grappling with a couple categories of issues. If they have been

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What Do We Mean by Relationship Trauma?

Posted: May 30, 2014, 7:43 pm
(Note, continued training along with streaming video available on “The Workshop” on the membership site) Relationship trauma is the kind of emotional and psychological trauma that occurs within the context of relationships. We are biologically wired to seek close and ...

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

Stories by tian dayton PhD on Medium

Tied Up In Knots: The Anxiety of Living with Unresolved Grief

Posted: April 15, 2017, 7:35 pm

Grief that is out in the open, that is part of the natural cycle of life or one of life’s tragic circumstances has a dignity to it. The person experiencing a loss feels that they have a right to grieve and to accept caring and attention from those they love. However the kinds of losses ...

Daily Affirmations


I will not look for soul today. I will not search or hack at the sediment that sits in its way. Today I will let soul chase after me – like children on a playground we will play tag, soul and I. I will hide in excited anticipation to be found and when I am, I will fuss and stamp my feet. I will whine and be a sore loser and then make up with soul, all to keep the game going-to keep it fun, lively and involving. But all the time, I will be easy to find. I will hide in obvious places and make noises. I will be a good playmate; the idea will be to keep playing – not to win or lose. Today I will take for granted that soul wants to be with me as much as I want to be with soul.
I’m hiding-come find me.
To play is to be unfettered and unconditional, to perform actions that are intrinsically satisfying, to sing, dance and laugh. . . . As players, then the gods are revealed to be delightful, joyful, graceful beings whose actions are completely spontaneous, unconditional, and expressive of their transcendent completeness and freedom. David R. Kinsley