There is a vast difference between healthy dependence and co-dependence. In healthy dependence I feel my own feelings, own them and share them openly with someone else, and I allow that person to do the same with me. In co-dependence, I become lodged within another person’s psyche and feel their feelings for them, losing touch with what I am feeling. Today I understand that it is healthy to have comfortable interdependent relationships where all members take responsibility for themselves and their own thoughts and feelings. I can lean on someone without falling over because my center of gravity is within me.

I can have intimacy in my life.

Never idealize others. They will never life up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.
Leo Buscaglia