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    • Overview of Emotional Sobriety

    What are the Signs of Emotional Sobriety?

    • Well developed Skills of self regulation
    • Ability to regulate strong emotions
    • Ability to regulate mood
    • Ability to maintain a perspective on life circumstances
    • Ability to regulate potentially harmful substances or behaviors
    • Ability to live in the present
    • Ability to regulate activity levels
    • Ability to live with both social and intimate connection
    • Resilience, the ability to roll with the punches
    • Ability to regulate personal behavior

    What are Symptoms of a Lack of Emotional Sobriety?

    • Underdeveloped skills of self regulation
    • Inability to regulate strong feelings such as anger, rage, anxiety, sadness
    • Lack of ability to regulate mood
    • Lack of ability to regulate behavior
    • Not being able to put strong emotions into perspective
    • Lack of ability to regulate substances or self medicating behaviors
    • Inability to live in the present
    • Lack of ability to regulate activity level (chronically over or under active)
    • Inability to live comfortably in intimate relationships
    • Lack of resilience or the ability to roll with the punches

    What are the Solutions: How Can I Come Into Balance?

    • Learn the skills of mind, body and emotional self regulation
    • Resolve childhood wounds so they don’t undermine self regulation
    • Learn effective and healthy ways of self soothing and incorporate them into daily life
    • Learn effective ways to manage stress
    • Maintain a healthy body, get daily exercise, rest, proper nutrition
    • Process emotional ups and downs as they happen, consciously shift feeling states
    • Learn to use the thinking mind to regulate the feeling, limbic mind
    • Develop inner resources, quiet, meditation, spiritual pursuits
    • Develop outer resources, work, hobbies, social life, community

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