Tian Dayton

Today I am aware that it is more difficult to let go of a painful,
dysfunctional situation or relationship than a happy, healthy one. When
a relationship or situation is going wrong, I become entangled in the
mess, always feeling that if I did just a little bit more, if I tried a
little harder, if I changed something . . . then it would work. When I
come from this insecure place, it really never does work out . . . all
of my frantic efforts only serve to complicate an already complicated
situation and my best intentions fall on deaf ears. Letting go does not
mean losing; it simply means that I am willing for change to occur.
Sometimes the change is so subtle I only know it took place because I
feel better; sometimes it is more pronounced.

I can let go and allow movement to occur.

If error is corrected whenever it is recognized as such, the path of
error is the path of truth.
Hans Reichenbach

I have two aspects: the masculine and the feminine, the animus and
anima. Both male and female unite within me. I will bring both these
parts of myself into balance because it is important to my mental
health. I can be intuitive and nurturing simultaneously with allowing
for healthy aggression and competence. I am biologically equipped for
all of these characteristics to varying degrees. Today’s world requires
that I be actively in touch with all these qualities-every one of them
is important if I wish to be the kind of person that modern lifestyles
require. When I feel myself getting out of balance, I will set about
restoring the qualities within me and within my day that I am missing.

I am the masculine and the feminine.

This marriage of the masculine with the feminine has to take place in
all of our hearts and minds, whether we are male or female. The mystical
and practical health it brings is the goal of being human, the basis and
energy of all true transformation.
Andrew Harvey

Today I recognize that spirituality is not so much a question of doing
as of being. It is not where I am going to as much as where I am coming
from that counts. God-centered living is a space that I live in, in my
mind. There is nothing to prove by doing. There is no circumstance to
manipulate that can show that I am close to or far from Higher Power.
Living in the presence of light, love and compassion is what it is all
about. I can take a thousand actions that look right, but if the heart
that directs my hand is coming from an empty place, then all of those
actions have less spiritual impact than just one that comes from a
spiritual and loving place.

I am being where I want to be.

The things we know best are those we have not learned.
Vauvenargues

Soul is not some disembodied entity-it is part of me, part of my
struggle. When I bring deep conflicts housed in my unconscious to a
conscious level, I am making more of soul conscious as well. Every
aspect of life or thought has soul present within it. Conflict that is
locked in a frozen state in my deeper mind locks soul along with it. To
free my mind also frees soul and life energy. Soul is a mighty
phenomenon, as big as all creation. I need to expand my mind to be able
to contain it or be with it.

I study inner conflicts to expand my soul.

To experience conflicts knowingly, though it may be distressing, can be
an invaluable asset. The more we face our own conflicts and seek out our
own solutions, the more inner freedom and strength we will gain. Only
when we are willing to bear the brunt can we approximate the ideal of
being the captain of our ship. Spurious tranquillity rooted in inner
dullness is anything but enviable. It is bound to make us weak and an
easy prey to any kind of influence.
Karen Horney, M.D.

Today I accept that life is full of transitions. As a child, change came
to mean trauma. I never knew what to expect in my dysfunctional home.
Would all be calm and loving or would everyone be frantic, tense and at
each other’s throats? Either was possible. Both were unpredictable and
frightening-the good, because if I let myself feel the wonderful love,
peace and calm, I immediately feared the terrible pain of losing it. The
bad, because we tore at one another with our arguing, rage and insults.
At some deep level I put my trust in the bad; it hurt too much to trust
the good and lose it over and over again. Today when I get scared over a
transition, I see that it’s about old pain. I needn’t get stuck in it
again. I have tools today that I didn’t have then.

I can tolerate the anxiety that change brings up.

Genius is formed in guiet, character in the stream of life.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe